Communication is the soul of
marriage. A healthy and prosperous marriage is an indication that the husband
and wife communicate with each other effectively and regularly. Effective
communication is a powerful tool with which husband and wife can deal with the
little 'foxes' that suck marriage love. When something is going wrong in your
marriage, check the mode of communication between you and your spouse before
you move far into the problem.
The areas you need to check if the
mode of communication between you and your spouse is healthy are:
1.
Do you take time to discuss issues concerning your
marriage and family? You need to
discuss issues concerning your marriage exhaustively with your spouse regularly
if your marriage is to move forward in the right direction.
2.
Do you always want to dominate your spouse during
discussion? Your desire to dominate your spouse
during discussion implies that domineering spirit is driving you. This may make
your spouse to lose interest in discussing with you.
3.
Do you say ‘sorry’ when you offend your spouse? Saying 'sorry' to your spouse when
you offend him/her is an indication that you are humble enough to realise that
you are wrong. This five-letter word is a 'balm of Eden' that heals the inner
wound that your action has caused in your spouse's heart.
4.
Do you always hold to your opinion even when your
spouse has a superior opinion?
No man is a paradigm of wisdom. Acknowledging and accepting a superior opinion
of others is a sign of greatness. We have discovered that it takes the ideas of
both husband and wife to reach decisions that can drive a marriage to the realm
of prosperity. So don't reject this powerful tool in building your marriage.
5.
Do you postpone settlement of disagreement between
you and your spouse? Postponing
settlement of disagreement between you and your spouse allows tension to build
up in your family. This can cause distress and anarchy that are capable of
destroying your marriage.
6.
Do you listen attentively to your spouse when he/she
expresses his/her opinion?
It is good to be an attentive listener. When you listen to your spouse with a
rapt attention, you are assuring him/her that you're interested in his/her
opinion.
7.
Do you tell your spouse when he/she offends you? Telling your spouse when he/she
offends you relieves you of inner tension that bottling it up could have
generated in you. It opens room for dialogue between you for its settlement.
8.
In what manner do you state your grievances when
your spouse offends you?
When you have anything against your spouse, you should state your mind with
humility, love, meekness and soothing words. Don't castigate your spouse.
9.
When you reach a concrete decision with your spouse,
do you submit to that decision and relate with your spouse accordingly? If you accept the decision you
reach with your spouse as a joint decision and you are convinced that the
decision is for the overall welfare of your family, you need to submit to it.
10. When a
matter has been resolved, do you always refer to it on other occasions? Referring to past wrongs that had
been resolved is a way of opening up the old wound. It means you have not
really forgiven your spouse. This will affect your marriage love and the way
you relate with your spouse.
11. Do you
always insult your spouse’s parents and relations? It is a great sin against God for you to insult your
spouse's parents and relations. It will work against your love in your spouse's
heart.
12. Do you
verbally appreciate your spouse's efforts to keep your marriage going smoothly? Expressing your appreciation of
your spouse's action is a tonic that put him/her on to work tirelessly for the
progress of your marriage.
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