Nugget 2: Managing the Differences between the Husband and Wife

 The major problem that confronts the husband and wife is their differences. This has destroyed many marriages because of the inability of the husband and wife to understand their differences and manage them with wisdom and understanding. Are you being terrifying by the differences between you and your spouse? Or are you planning to quit your marriage because of the differences between you and your spouse? Calm down and listen to this nugget. Understanding this nugget, I believe, will make you change your mind.

Mechanic of creation reveals that no two persons are the same. This is the reason we must relate with one another for progress and fulfilment of our mission on earth. Imagine! If parts of our body are the same, we cannot accomplish any meaningful task. It is networking of the members of our bodies with their differences that makes us grow and discharge our duties effectively.

Similarly, husband and wife are not homogeneous. God created husband and wife with unique differences. Ideally, husband and wife are to complement each other and not to compete with each other. That is, husband and wife combine together to form a dynamic partner that can build a happy and successful marriage. What is missing in the husband must be in the wife. This is the mystery of marriage.

It follows that husband and wife that will build a successful and blissful marriage must manage their differences with patience, understanding and wisdom. There is power in diversities if they are well harnessed and managed.

I counsel you that you should not nag your spouse or take offence because of the differences between you. Love the differences and work on them, your marriage will be strong. Your differences make your relationship exciting. Think on this! If both of you are introverts, your relationship will be boring and if the two of you are extroverts, there will be tension in your relationship.

God is wise in making you who you are and match you with your spouse with different dispositions. Don’t attempt to change your spouse. You should stay together patiently until you understand each other and accommodate your differences without any stress. This is maturity. It will help you to harness your differences and work as a team in building a dynamic, stable and happy marriage.  

The point to note in conclusion is: A successful marriage does not mean lack of differences between husband and wife but the ability of the couple to turn their differences to strength and concede to each other when necessary. You should handle your marital differences with understanding, love and patience and you will enjoy a stable and blissful marriage.

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