It is a common knowledge that not
every marriage is successful, yet every couple desires to have a successful
marriage. What makes the difference is that many couples are casual in their
marriage relationship while some are serious in making their marriages successful.
Commitment is therefore the hub of a successful marriage. Only the couple that
ignores all distractions and weathers all the storms can attain the goal of
establishing a successful and blissful marriage. Such a couple sacrifice many
things in the course of establishing a marriage that could be described as haven
on earth.
It is instructive to note that
commitment in marriage should be regular and continue for the life of the
husband and wife in order to sustain the euphoria of their marriage. It is
necessary to examine your commitment in your marriage regularly on the
following bases.
1. Do you
place your business/work or other things above your marriage? Placing anything above your
marriage reduces the time you spend at home with your family. This opens a door
for third parties to meddle in the affairs of your family. Most of the times, activities
of third parties are always inimical to the health of a marriage.
2. What are
you doing to make your marriage peaceful and blissful for your spouse? The best goal you can set is that
you will do everything possible to make your spouse happy and enjoy your relationship.
When husband and wife set this goal, their marriage will be peaceful,
successful and blissful.
3. What are
your daily sacrifices for a healthy relationship with your spouse? Many things as well as some people
compete together for your time and affection. You need to sacrifice all these
things for you to have time to work on your marriage in order to make it
successful progressively.
4. Are you
ready to give up whatever you know can destabilise your marriage? Do you perceive something that
erodes the love and intimacy between you and your spouse? You should not
hesitate to avoid it. Of course friends and things (even your hobby) that can
cause problem in your marriage should be avoided. Remember, if your marriage fails,
you’re solely responsible and you become a laughing-stock in the society.
5. What have
you invested in your marriage that will bind you with your spouse for life? When you have not invested anything
in your marriage, you have nothing at stake. Successful couples invested time,
money and many things in their marriages. Hence, they will not allow their
marriages to fail. A marriage in which husband and wife fail to invest something
can collapse anytime without a sense of loss. They will not even make any
attempt for reconciliation because they never feel the any loss!
6. When there
is a problem in your marriage, do you join hand with your spouse to resolve it
promptly? There is power in unity. No matter
how tough a marital problem may be, if you can join hand with your spouse and
you agree that the problem would disappear, surely you will be happy at last.
In case your spouse is the cause of the problem, you should avoid to say, ‘I have warned you’ and don’t shift
blame. Forget about the past and think of how to solve the problem lovingly and
move forward. Delaying resolution of issues as they arise
always gives room for them to escalate to greater and perhaps irreconcilable
problems. Please don’t procrastinate in dealing with your marital problems.
7. Is there
anything that your spouse can do and prompt you to divorce him/her? Job says, 'What I feared has come upon me; what I
dreaded has happened to me' (Job 3:25). If you have certain things
that can make you quit your marriage if your spouse do them, such things have a
way of happening. So watch.
In conclusion, a successful marriage
is a task that both husband and wife must commit themselves to achieve. It
should be known that a bad marriage breeds bad children and distressed men and
women. This causes insecurity and corruption in the society. Your marriage must
succeed, don’t give up yet. Try more and you will surely enjoy your marriage.
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